
Growing Yourself Up (Second Edition)
How to Bring Your Best to All of Life’s Relationships
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Jonathan Moffat
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Jenny Brown
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In relationships, we experience both the best and worst of ourselves. Growing Yourself Up helps you understand yourself by understanding your relationships. Drawing on Bowen family systems theory, the book explores each life stage to see predictable relationship patterns and then make self-adjustments to facilitate change. This second edition of the best-selling book also examines how to effectively help others. The result is a sturdier self and a new view of life’s challenges and opportunities.
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- Mike
- 05-13-23
Worst narration. Great content.
Struggled to get past the robotic reading. Actually a robot could do better!
But the content was very useful, with some nice insights and really practical learnings for everyday life and relationships.
If I wasn't so hooked on audiobooks I think this would be better read in paper format.
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