
F the Shoulds. Do the Wants
Get Clear on Who You Are, What You Want, and Why You Want It.
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Tricia Huffman
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Tricia Huffman
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Forget what you have been told about what you "should" do or be—and ask yourself what do you want?
You have no idea how much the shoulds are running your life, holding you back, and making you question your worth on a daily basis. Tricia Huffman didn't—until she committed to eliminating all shoulds from her life. In F THE SHOULDS. DO THE WANTS, Tricia takes you on her journey of uncovering the deep-rooted implications of the word should and helps you gain the self-awareness that this simple, yet effective one word swap gave her.
She shows how the word should consciously and unconsciously weighs on us in our daily language, thoughts, and beliefs and teaches how by shifting shoulds into wants, you will:
* Recognize the "shoulds" that are at the root of your doubts, fears, resentment, and shame.
* Call out the BS stories you create and believe about yourself.
* Stop beating yourself up over the "should haves" and what already happened.
* Build a direct line to your intuition and integrity.
* Cut out your excuses and procrastination.
* Embrace, heal, and own who you are fully each day.
Stop shoulding all over yourself and learn how to listen to what it is that you truly want and feel! By focusing on this one word, you will give yourself a direct line to what truly matters to you—and live your most present, aligned, and alive life.
Tricia Huffman's message is simple but effective: replace the word "should" with the word "want" in your vocabulary and unlock a true connection to yourself on a daily basis.
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- Kindle Customer
- 01-17-23
Loved hearing it from the author herself!
I had already purchased the physical copy of this book, but then I decided what better way to get the most out of the message than from Tricia herself?
Loved the tips and tricks she shared and found myself writing a lot of it down as she was speaking. She’s so down to earth and empowering at the same time. Can’t recommend Tricia enough!
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- Genevieve
- 12-13-22
So so helpful!!!!
Love, love F the shoulds, do the wants. I love Tricia’s narration and all of the guided support and really the whole book!!!
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- Michelle
- 05-23-22
Lots of F-words
Probably should have expected this based on the name of the book, but because of the limited exposure I had had to the author where she didn’t swear at all, I definitely did not expect the language to be as bad as it was.
If that doesn’t bother you you’ll probably like the rest of the book. I really enjoyed most of the content.
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- Elisa R. Goodman
- 05-24-22
I Should Finish this Book...but I Don't Want to...
I'm so sad to say that I was very curious about this book after hearing Tricia on a recent podcast that I follow. I absolutely LOVE the title and was very excited to dive into its content. I did realize that I was someone who often struggled with the word "Should" from a young age - "What Should i dream about?" What Should I wear to school? What Should I want to eat? and so on - and so it was helpful to know that this "dirty" word has run my life for 65 years. I felt the content was delivered in a very deliberate and measured way - which, sadly, didn't hold my interest and so I did not finish the book.
That being said, I I wholeheartedly believe what she is saying - that we often do not take stock of owning our life choices and are often on a loop of getting through life with a toxic obligation to others. Too often, we don't want to take the helm to steer our own life course - where we would be so much happier and more joyful if we took the time to really recognize and contemplate what we do want. I love that her job title is a "Joyologist" - I think that's brilliant. Hopefully, she delivers nuggets more wisdom and takeawawys - I just finished a couple of memoirs that sped by and I was hoping I could catch the wind with this book but it just didn' thappen for me.
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