
Cutting Loose
Why Women Who End Their Marriages Do So Well
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Ashton Applewhite
About this listen
For women contemplating divorce or for those who have already divorced, Ashton Applewhite's insightful book sheds light on what to consider before making the decision to end your marriage, how to protect yourself - both financially and emotionally - and how much your life will change.
One out of every two modern marriages ends in divorce, and 75 percent of those divorces are initiated by wives. Author Ashton Applewhite is one of these women, having sued for divorce after enduring an unfulfilling 10-year marriage. Cutting Loose is an essential resource for women who want to leave their marriage but fear the consequences.
Shattering the media-generated image of the lonely, deprived, and financially strapped divorcee, Applewhite provides a much needed reality check. Cutting Loose introduces 50 women, varying in age, race, class, and predicament, who have thrived after initiating their own divorces. Their fears of financial, emotional, and romantic ruin were never realized; on the contrary, their lives improved immeasurably, and their self-esteem soared.
Cutting Loose also answers the crucial questions: How do you finally decide to make the big break? What is getting divorced really like? What are the shortcomings of the legal process? What about custody and child support? Financial and emotional survival? And how does a woman's self-image change during and after divorce?
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- Jessica Garrett
- 05-31-22
Comforting
Due to the numerous interviews, it is impossible not to find multiple women that you identify with. By identifying with parts of these women's stories, it brings a comfort to understand that you are not alone in making such a difficult choice to ask for a divorce. I highly recommend this book to any woman thinking about asking for a divorce.
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- Leslie
- 03-31-22
Couldn't finish - too dry
I thought from the description this would be about women's lives and how they made the transition after divorce. There are some anecdotes of that in the book, but not as much I thought there would be. It feels like the author is regurgitating every thing she turned up about marriage and divorce like a book report with tirades against the patriarch thrown in. I'm about to divorce. I don't want a dry report on the history of the legalities. I wanted something that was more real and personal with maybe some advice. I just couldn't go on - after 4 hours I called it quits.
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