
Chameleon
Confessions of a Former People-Pleaser
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Rebecca Weller
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Have you ever wondered what drives our drinking? What actually fuels our desire to numb ourselves?
Ooh, let's see? Do you lie awake at night worried about what others think of you? Find yourself cringing whenever anyone asks for a favor because you don't know how to say no? Experience a virtual panic attack whenever someone tells you they "need to talk"?
You're not alone.
Welcome to one of the biggest and sneakiest drinking triggers: the disease to please.
Former people-pleaser, and author of the best-selling sobriety memoir A Happier Hour, Rebecca Weller shared your angst. Her pesky little need to be liked meant she was petrified of being a burden, of doing anything that might hurt somebody's feelings, and of the slightest confrontation.
Now she's here to help you take your power back.
In this book, Rebecca explores the many clumsy, humiliating—and ultimately liberating—lessons we might experience along the way, and how each of us can begin to build a deep and unshakeable confidence.
Chameleon: Confessions of a Former People-Pleaser is a book about the danger of giving our power away to others, and the magic of finding our way back to ourselves.
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