
Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves
A Memoir
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Michael Schwalbe
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Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves is the memoir of a law professor who has written over 20 books on the basic rights of American constitutionalism. He has been a prominent advocate of gay rights and feminism, which joins men and women in resistance.
As a gay man born into an Italian American family in New Jersey, he describes in this book his own experience on how the initiation of boys into patriarchy inflicts trauma, leading them to mindlessly accept patriarchal codes of masculinity, and how - through art, philosophy, and experience, including mutual love - he and others (straight and gay men) come to join women in resisting patriarchy through the discovery of how deeply it harms men as well as women.
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- 06-18-21
Not a Memior
A memoir in title more than in content. The book opens with an exhaustive exploration of literary and dramatic representations of patriarchy, while they hold their footing in the examples provided and argued. There was no story or point to it other than to feel chastised about patriarchy's prominence in society. The book is tone deaf and stressful to listen to unless you're already well enough attuned to the examples laid out. I give up feeling frustrated. I looked up places that the memoir or note in the title might actually exist, but only found reviews that reflect my own experience. Change the title, it's misleading.
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