
BIFF
Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
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Scott R. Pollak
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By:
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Bill Eddy
About this listen
We live in an age of rapid change and instant communication. We also live in a culture of blame and disrespect...
Has anyone ever told you:
- “It’s all your fault!”
- “You should be ashamed of yourself!”
- “You’re a disgrace to your [family][community][country][team][profession][party][you fill in the blank]
- “What’s the matter with you? Are you crazy? Stupid? Immoral? Unethical? Evil?”
And then were you told everything that’s “wrong” with you and how you should behave?
It’s not about you!
Let’s face it. Most of us have said something like this when we “lost it”—hopefully not too often. But some people communicate this way a lot! It’s helpful to know that their personal attacks are not about you. They are about the blamer’s inability to control himself and solve problems.
When people repeatedly use personal attacks, I think of them as “high-conflict people” (HCPs), because they lack skills for dealing well with conflict. Instead of sharing responsibility for solving problems, they repeatedly lose it and increase conflict by making it intensely personal and taking no responsibility. They are the most difficult people, because they are preoccupied with blaming others—what I call their “targets of blame”—which may include you! They speak Blamespeak: attack, defend—and attack again.
I wrote this book to help you respond to anyone who tries to engage you with hostile emails, texts, Facebook postings, vicious rumors, or just plain difficult behavior. But before I explain how to write a BIFF response, I want to give you a brief understanding of how HCPs think.
This audiobook was produced and published by Echo Point Books & Media, an independent bookseller in Brattleboro, Vermont.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
©2011 Bill Eddy (P)2024 Echo Point Books & Media, LLCListeners also enjoyed...
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Dating Radar
- Why Your Brain Says Yes to "The One" Who Will Make Your Life Hell
- By: Bill Eddy LCSW Esq., Megan Hunter MBA
- Narrated by: Barry Abrams
- Length: 8 hrs and 56 mins
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Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar - it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing:
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Bad Narrator
- By Marie on 12-21-18
By: Bill Eddy LCSW Esq., and others
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Stop Walking on Eggshells for Partners
- What to Do When Your Partner Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- By: Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy LCSW JD
- Narrated by: Rachel Perry
- Length: 11 hrs and 14 mins
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BPD and NPD expert Randi Kreger provides targeted resources to help you build the confidence you need to navigate your relationship safely and effectively. Packed with in-depth information and proven-effective skills, this guide will help you evaluate your relationship, discover what you truly want and need, and gain the courage needed to make healthy decisions.
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Essential if you are in high-conflict relationship
- By lcc on 12-06-24
By: Randi Kreger, and others
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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex
- What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You
- By: Amy E. Baker PhD, Paul R. Fine
- Narrated by: Vanessa Daniels
- Length: 5 hrs and 43 mins
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In Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex, a nationally recognized parenting expert offers you a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn to avoid the most common mistakes of co-parenting, how to avoid "parental alienation syndrome", and effective techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters an open and honest response. In addition, you'll learn how to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts between you and your ex-spouse.
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Not Helpful For Me
- By Catherine Conklin on 11-05-17
By: Amy E. Baker PhD, and others
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Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths and How We Can Stop
- By: Bill Eddy
- Narrated by: Tom Dheere
- Length: 5 hrs and 32 mins
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Democracy is under siege. The reason isn’t politics but personalities: Too many countries have come under the sway of high-conflict people (HCPs) who have become politicians. Most of these high-conflict politicians have traits of narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial (i.e., sociopathic) personality disorder, or both. This is the first and only guide for identifying and thwarting them.
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All Republicans are High Conflict Personalities
- By Brian K. Cutshall on 03-04-20
By: Bill Eddy
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Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent
- By: Margalis Fjelstad, Jean McBride
- Narrated by: Senn Annis
- Length: 6 hrs and 33 mins
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Being partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors tell listeners how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation.
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Hope Found
- By Danielle Smith on 06-16-21
By: Margalis Fjelstad, and others
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Effective Co-Parenting or Parallel Parenting with a Narcissist
- Set Boundaries, Eliminate Conflict, Protect Yourself, and Raise Emotionally Secure Children
- By: Claire Brown
- Narrated by: Sera Chance
- Length: 5 hrs and 1 min
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Learn how to effectively raise kids with a narcissistic ex and ensure your kids are emotionally secure, mentally strong, confident, and happy. It can be done, but you need to utilize specific strategies.
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Great resources and strategies
- By RealtoReads on 03-27-24
By: Claire Brown
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Abduction
- Human Encounters with Aliens
- By: John E. Mack
- Narrated by: Brian Arens
- Length: 20 hrs and 2 mins
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A Harvard psychiatrist and Pulitzer Prize-winning author, John E. Mack, the author of A Prince of Our Disorder, presents accounts of alien abduction taken from the more than 60 cases he has investigated, and examines the implications for our identity as a species. Mack's Abduction: Human Encounters with Aliens is a fascinating investigation of real-world alien encounters, and explores how extraterrestrial encounters affected the way people regarded the world—including heightening their sense of spirituality and their environmental concern.
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Gripping recounts of abduction experiences
- By Kaitlyn on 11-20-23
By: John E. Mack
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Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare
- How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
- By: Shahida Arabi
- Narrated by: Julie McKay
- Length: 19 hrs and 53 mins
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Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual.
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Finally
- By zero on 12-08-16
By: Shahida Arabi
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The Narcissist's Playbook
- How to Identify, Disarm, and Protect Yourself from Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths, and Other Types of Manipulative and Abusive People
- By: Dana Morningstar
- Narrated by: Dana Morningstar
- Length: 7 hrs and 7 mins
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Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why?...Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop. The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. You can take back your life.
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powerful
- By All Dolled Up on 01-17-20
By: Dana Morningstar
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Co-Parenting After Divorcing a Narcissist
- By: Isabella Francis
- Narrated by: Sera Chance
- Length: 5 hrs and 51 mins
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Now that you’ve broken free, there’s something that will shock you—they still have a hold over you! They’re still involved in your life in a big way because you have a child together. Now you have to co-parent in two different households and find a way to move forwards for the benefit of your child.
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Unqualified Bad Advice
- By Amaya on 06-26-24
By: Isabella Francis
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It's Not You
- Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
- By: Ramani Durvasula PhD
- Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula PhD, Maria Shriver
- Length: 11 hrs and 31 mins
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It’s not always easy to tell when you’re dealing with a narcissist. One day they draw you in with their confidence and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering, What could I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani Durvasula reveals in It's Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing. Just as a tiger can’t change its stripes, a narcissist won’t stop manipulating and invalidating you. To heal in the aftermath of their abuse and protect yourself from future harm, you first have to accept that you are not to blame.
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I needed this
- By Austin E. Jonas Jr. on 03-02-24
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Letting Go
- The Pathway of Surrender
- By: David R. Hawkins MD/PHD
- Narrated by: Peter Lownds PhD
- Length: 12 hrs and 23 mins
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Letting Go describes a simple and effective means by which to let go of the obstacles to enlightenment and become free of negativity. During the many decades of the author's clinical psychiatric practice, the primary aim was to seek the most effective ways to relieve human suffering in all of its many forms. The inner mechanism of surrender was found to be of great practical benefit and is described in this book.
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Severely Flawed
- By Rich on 10-23-15
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- Ruby
- 12-10-24
Practical and relevant
This book provides a convenient shorthand and easy to understand formula for dealing with impossibly toxic people. Very helpful- I strongly recommend.
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- Cliente de Kindle
- 09-30-24
It gives you exactly what you can expect from the title
I like that is short, but still develops a couple of ideas and give you examples. Most of these type of books are 100 pages longer that the should be, not this one
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- MKG
- 11-02-24
practical, wise, on point, life saving
Gives a sensible blueprint for how and why to respond to highly contentious people remarks, actions, attacks.
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