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Jessica Geffen
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Andrea Brandt
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This audiobook offers guidance for dealing with this common and frustrating form of behavior. Many people often say "yes" to something when they'd rather say "no." They offer cooperation through words but follow up with how they really feel - in actions that contradict their words. That's passive-aggression. At its heart, passive-aggression is about being untrue to oneself, which makes it impossible to have a clean relationship with others. Passive-aggression as a communication method doesn't make someone "bad." It is simply a strategy learned in childhood as a coping mechanism, a hard-to-break habit. Changing passive-aggressive behavior requires knowledge, tools, and practice, as outlined here.
This audiobook offers effective methods for transforming passive-aggression into healthy assertiveness to communicate in constructive ways through eight keys:
- Recognize Your Hidden Anger
- Reconnect Your Emotions to Your Thoughts
- Listen to Your Body
- Set Healthy Boundaries
- Communicate Assertively
- Interact Using Mindfulness
- Disable the Enabler
- Problem-Solve for Better Outcomes
Exercises are featured, which enable listeners to better understand themselves.
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- Marsha A. Nivins
- 08-01-15
Helped me to grow
This book is very insightful. I have moved a step forward in my grow journey. The concepts allowed me to see definitely analyze what my current behaviors were developed and how to change. So grateful for the read.
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- Jim
- 02-26-15
Eye opener
The narration was a bit droning at times but overall, the book was great. It definitely has me looking at my actions and the actions of those around me.
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- S. J. Carmine
- 02-23-21
Great content
This book was/is extremely helpful for me in understanding the passive-aggressive behavior I employ: where it comes from and how to change. Ms. Geffen’s presentation didn't resonate with me at the same level as the material. Nevertheless it was competently and fluidly delivered.
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- Amazon Customer
- 07-12-16
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I need to get the hard copy so that I can highlight stuff! I found both my husband and my in thus book.
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- Joshua
- 11-26-15
This was a very important book for me
I bought this book in a moment of desperate humility. My marriage was in deep trouble and one of the faults that was driving us onto the rocks was my passive aggressive behavior. This book was the first step in what is proving to be a long journey. This book isn't perfect, how could it be? It's a short, self help piece and can't cover all the issues or speak to the deeply personal issues of an individual, but it can act as a starting point.
I took it to my therapist to make sure it wasn't crap, possibly harmful. We used it as a framework to work from. It was very helpful.
I give it four stars, not five, because I had trouble with an aspect of the text undermining my self respect, a lack of which is one of my fundamental problems. If you are engaging in passive-agressive behavior you are being a terrible person, but, you're acting this way to try to protect yourself. While this idea is present I don't think it was emphasized enough, The most important step for me was not accepting that I was treating people badly, but recognizing that I was angry, frustrated and scared and didn't know how to function in ways to help myself. Realizing I was treating people badly was important, but coming to a kind and nonjudgmental understanding of why I was acting in this manner was the first action I had to take.
I can't overemphasize the importance of mindfulness work. Start with this book, but keep looking for a way of meditating that works for you. This text started me, but doesn't go into mindfulness practice in a deep, sophisticated way. There are some other very good titles here at Audible.
I'm still a long way from perfect, I can still be a real bastard, but I'm much better.
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